Work, Life Balance - Husbands and Wives

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It really seems to be so incredibly difficult to find the "middle ground" between life and work.  Why is it so difficult?

Because people are so unhappy?
Because people don't have realistic expectations?
Because people do not realize what this life really takes to be successful?  Maybe

The Situation:  
I work 12 hours a day and then I am supposed to come home and help my wife with the children. Why can't she handle the house and the children and I handle the job and the money?

Issue one:  He is still in his twenties.  Unless you come from a very wealthy family or just won the lottery you should not marry nor have children. 
Issue two:  Wives have many, many skills.  Many young women today do not have these skills in their twenties.  They never did, however, in the past her mother would be there every day to help her. Not anymore.  So, unless you are a millionaire who can hire a chef, a nanny, a housekeeper, a groundskeeper and a personal shopper  - you don't marry a girl like this.

A Good Wife

Proverbs 31 King James Version (KJV)

31 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.

2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?

3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.

4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:

5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.

6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.

7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.

8 Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.

9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

King James

A Good Husband

Pay all the bills and back up the wife in matters of disciplining the children or issue within the community. - That's it.

I suppose the best quality a man/husband can have is his choice in wife.  If he knows how to choose this then most of his problems are solved.

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1os43x_wait-till-your-father-gets-home-chet-s-job_tv

Good luck!